Pain teaches us lessons

PAIN

I never liked experiencing pain, I think no one does, but some times it’s necessary to experience it so that we learn the lessons that enable us to grow. We live our lives trying to avoid pain by all means and we fill our lives with everything that we feel makes us happy so that we numb the feeling of pain thereby making it insignificant. But think about this, what if we are only fooling ourselves and we are only prolonging the inevitable.

Pain is part of life and no matter how long we try to avoid it, we experience it one way or another. The more we push it aside, the greater the pain we experience, therefore it would be wise to experience it once and deal with it so that we learn the lesson we need from it so that we move on. A child sees a candle and no matter how many times you warn the child about the burning flames of a candle the curiosity stays in the child’s mind. Once the child touches the flames and burns, the pain stays as a reminder of how painful the burning flames are and thus a lesson is learned, not to touch the candle.

Like a child, we are all so curious about the world around us, and like the burning flames of a candle, the world can burn us and we are always warned about it’s burning sensation. If the child was disciplined enough and headed the warnings of thae burning candle, the lesson would have not been learned, because sooner or later that curiosity would come back when the child is alone and the burn will be more severer as the child would want to explore the flames of a candle, even tilting it over to burn something else causing huge flames that might result in detriment. But if a child is allowed to experience the pain in supervision, the flames would burn for that second on the skin of the child removing all the curiosity in a short period. Therefore, if we shield ourselves from experiencing the pain whilst we still have that curiosity to learn, we are only holding it off for some later time which may come with catastrophic results.

Allow yourself to experience the pain whilst the curiosity is still new, and learn the lesson that comes from it so that you can move on, that is, grow. The curiosity inside each and everyone of us is the desire to learn and grow, if we fear pain then we are closing any opportunity to do that. I know this may sound unreal, but trust me, this is one of the ways in which we experience the most valuable lessons about happiness. You need to first experience the pain that will allow us to grow and if we keep on denying ourselves of that pain, we are simply prolonging the inevitable and saving it for later when it comes back in greater quantinty.

So ke mchana feel the pain, learn the lesson from it and grow so that you can just be happy.