VUYOLWETHU JUST BE HAPPY!

I don’t like competitions... They never have good come out of them even though they promise good.

Let me introduce myself by explaining why… There are humans with feelings involved, who have to focus their energies towards something that serves a specific purpose, which they may not even relate to, for something good that will benefit them, and they all truly desire it, but only a few can attain it…

WHAT GOOD CAN COME OUT OF THAT?

I’ve realized it’s the same with life, we can’t assume that since I am a mess or imperfect I can’t have any good. We can’t assume a pastor won’t be a rapist… Doing all of that is like comparing imperfect, which we all have. We like making the perfect relevant whilst the imperfect is what we’re born in. This is where we learn the greatest lessons in life, because it takes the person who created the mess to fix it. Therefore it takes a human to fix a human, because we all live in this world no matter our present circumstances. That’s why if I simply got a handout after discovering the site where everyone was spying on me… It wouldn’t have made sense to get a hand out, money that would not make any sense of how I got to the situation I was in. A handout that’s well deserved is one that comes with a lesson. It would have meant I was also faking it, not being real with myself. Because for me to find it I had to be myself, and from myself there was also my deceiver, the evil that we assume comes from the outside. Who's better at finding a deceiver than another deceiver? We both have good and bad but if you seek the evil in others, you will get it and add with your own. And become walking hell fire, the one you so fear to go to, you might be living it. And the good you’re so focused in achieving comes with a bad.. So why do you focus your energy on hate whilst you can focus on the good that comes with good? Because I do, I find good in anyone because I am also not good. I have my own hell so why add on mine? Why not forgive? I only seek Good so I just Love.

That’s the only good that can come in this world, because what’s the use of being the only one who’s good in this world?

Aren’t you going to complain that there’s too much cruelty in the world because you’re selfish with the good?

Hence there’s power in [word], motivating yourself whilst doing so to others. Isn’t that how spiritual beings are? Both individual and social. Why when you see someone falling not give words of encouragement rather than forcing them to see their own truth whilst you have your own truth to face too. I had to go close myself in my room, because everyone who saw me outside kept reminding me of myself. It was painful, having to look at my ugly self whilst I use to be and still am the cutest, hot and sexy…. thing to work this earth. When I was forced to go to my hell, I had to hide my ugly, what was I to do?

We don’t have to take lifts also from the physical challenges we face, I can only help you so much but to get there it’s takes commitment from your side. The emotional control and stability that we all seek is all in our power, but you just need to let go of that power first, for you to regain it back again. So we can’t just assume I am right and he is wrong, I am better, he is not, or even I am week and his strong. We all wear that tempting red dress, we can be either deceiving our own selves or making innocent mistakes. So why compare? One last thing, there’s a lot of deals this world offers.. How do you choose between a good and a bad one? Honestly? Take one that benefits your mind. If there’s too much buzz around a choice, there’s probably something better, that  we haven’t discovered yet. We can’t all be looking at the same thing and be seeing the same thing. Perhaps it’s better when you find a choice that will bring peace for your mind. As long as it’s good, and for you to know that it is good, it should make you happy mchana!

FACING YOUR UGLY TRUTH

The truth is bitter and painful and we tend to choose to look the other way than facing the bitterness. It’s understandable, no one want’s to face pain, I wouldn’t want it on anyone also. That’s why when someone makes you experience the worst pain in your life, as much as it is bitter and excruciating to face them, it’s better we do, so the pain comes and the healing process could be quick. Because the more we look away, the more it becomes painful to look at. And it follows you mchana, it doesn’t let you get peace until, nawe uyijamele, and face the reality within you. Even if it’s a painful feeling, it’s your reality and needs to be faced.

Yondla usana lwakho!

Thwala indebe yakho!

When being overwhelmed by life's problems, focus on the good and don’t fixate on the bad that come with it. Just find strength in doing the good and leave whatever that doesn’t benefit you. You see why I hate competitions? Because no one is in reality a winner, it’s all a deception and for an offer that is good, that could leave the other person feeling bad.

So what good is that?

A good that comes with a bad? I would rather leave that kind of good that would leave most in bad and few with good. Because we all have our unique senses and if they focus too much on what they are not truly feeling, they end up losing feeling/touch. Imagine now the time and experience it takes to find good from a bad situation? It’s a learning experienced that takes patience with yourself. Imagine how difficult it is to find the end of a sticking tape when using it to close boxes, using only a needle. The box itself is a struggle to close without being taped. This proves that there’s a lot to life, and we simply can’t grasp all of it from just a quick glance and assume that we know it. But you need to find a path of your own, and through your own experience you trust your own path of living life. With your own path comes love, from that love comes experience, which brings lessons that can be trusted and belief in your path. When you see it working in fixing a problem you will have faith in it. That is why you need to find your own path, understand yourself and be patient. So that you know how to get out of tricky situations, and just trick the situation back mchana!

Stop all the pretence and face my truth. That’s how life becomes so much better mchana! When you just be who you are, even if there’s no camera around, you should imagine there is one. What is an ethical leader after all? You need to go through those rough experiences but after all of it, be the good you wanted to be ,when you went through those experiences. And trust me, doing good won’t even come at a single cost. Set your mind on achieving success, knowing your strengths and weakness, then you will get happiness.

MAKE HAPPINESS A LIFESTYLE

Make it a lifestyle, an everyday thing, even in your job or the position that you want to get. Push yourself with nothing but words, my colleagues kept on doing that here at work. They gave me words of encouragement even when I was not even aware at times. I want to thank them for that, because It has taken some time to accept myself especially here at work. I would drink too much to a point were the self just exploded out of control, because it was just pushed and shoved in boxes. If not sorted, and dealt with properly, you will end up exploding or not being able to deal with your problems.

As humans who are all not perfect we know that too well, why? Because we hide our imperfections too much and we are so good at it. That’s probably why it takes an imperfect person to know good, because once we realize that we are tired of hiding it, we start packing it out neatly so that it comes out as the happiness and goodness that you should see in a human being… Because that is the good that everyone wants from this cruel earth… We just want peace and happiness… And a rainbow is such a beautiful colour to look at.. It brings that feeling of joy just by staring.. If you are yourself then you are happy.

My name is Vuyolwethu, which means our happiness. I must share this happiness with everyone, it’s ours not mine…

Just be happy mchana!